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  • This post right here is exactly why ‘toxic masculinity’ is a fucking shit term that should never be used.

    The intended meaning of the phrase was never ‘men, who are toxic’, or even ‘men who are toxic’, even though that’s the straight-line interpretation of it.

    What it’s supposed to mean is ‘overexaggerated performative masculinity required by social norms, the imposition of which upon men is toxic’.

    Given that that’s a fucking mouthful and the short form is horribly misleading, I always go with “gender policing” instead.

    Stop telling people how to do their gender, and a vast number of social problems will evaporate. It also places the blame on the actual cause of the problem, and expands to cover mandatory-performative-femininity as well, which is also a shit thing to subject people to.